Andy

Age at interview: 31
Brief Outline:

Andy and his family care for his father, who has dementia. They split various tasks to help manage his father’s care since he has various health conditions as well as dementia.

Background:

Andy helps care for his father, who has dementia and various other health conditions.

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Andy’s father was first diagnosed with Alzheimer’s/vascular dementia when he was in hospital after an operation. Andy cares for his father alongside other family members as they each share roles to help care for him. Andy’s father has multiple health conditions that require constant care. Therefore, he is often visited at home by carers and health professionals to help deliver treatment for his other conditions. His father also has mobility issues, so Andy and his family have looked into getting a stair lift to adapt the house better.

Andy has found caring for his father difficult, especially during lockdown, and feels that it has negatively affected his mental health. Although his father’s dementia has not yet progressed to a stage where he is forgetting people, he is becoming increasingly forgetful. Behavioural aspects of his father’s dementia at the beginning also made caring for his father difficult.

Andy talks about his mental health struggles and how it impacts his ability to care for his father.

Andy talks about his mental health struggles and how it impacts his ability to care for his father.

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ike… I mean I just try to do what I can and like I’m not mentally OK, I’m not like mentally stable yet, but I try to help, but I don’t see any like… and benefit or any impact yet that could help him, and yeah, I’m just struggling myself, but there are days when I’m just tired and then I just stay in bed and I just give up and I can’t help him, but yeah, I’m not… I’m not capable to help him, yeah, all the time. Some days I will, yeah, when I have a bit of more energy, and when I feel a bit more positive, some days, but other days, yeah, I can’t because like he always needs someone every day, but yeah, it just can’t be me at the moment. I’m just… I’m just not mentally and physically ready yet, yeah, because I have to focus on myself and then… to get better, so I can focus on him.