I went up on about the 11^th of April and I have effectively been there ever since, although I’ve had, you know, a week off here, a fortnight off there, I had three weeks off there, kind of thing, with a lot of emotional support from the family and a lot of… also a lot of toing and froing with other people coming and kind of covering. And what I noticed then was that she was actually much less competent than I had realised, and much more forgetful.

I mean… she had an accident on the way to the loo where she was fecally incontinent and wasn’t aware of it, but I think may have known somehow that something had gone wrong, and I ended up clearing up and sorting all that out, and… and then trying to get her to get dressed and she was really recalcitrant and cross with me, and I think that’s where I felt some… she was aware that something had… had gone wrong but she didn’t… couldn’t remember, didn’t know, was just out of sorts, and then later that morning when I was doing… I was doing the AGA, I was taking the ashcan out and she shrieked at me, and I mean she just said, “It’s cold with that door open,” which she says all the time, but it’s cold, [angry voice] “it’s cold with that door open,” and I was… and I was disproportionately upset, you know, just was the wrong thing at the wrong time, and I went upstairs and cried, and that was the point at which… and I… and I contacted my daughter, I contacted my sister and told them both, and they were both lovely, and my sister was saying, “Look, you need more support than you’re getting,” and that might be support for Mum.